Just when Babydaddy gets around to blogging, time has exploded and a whole school year has gone by(wow!).
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Monday, September 10, 2012
There was a time when Babygirl was labeled "failure to thrive." Basically she had fallen of the growth curve shortly after she turned 1 year old. Obviously things like this happen all the time, especially when an infant gives up the mama milk, and then starts walking. We're talking about an increase in physical activity and calories burned, as well as the switch from the magical nutritional wonders of breast milk to formula(despite technology, formula companies continue to refine their recipe to better mimic everything that breast milk contains).
Prior to the official label of "failure to thrive," everything was tried to increase caloric intake, pediatrician asked us to double up the butter on toast, add oil to everything, etc. Needless to say, Babydaddy got good at sneaking in olive oil into all sorts of meals. Like anyone who's trying to put on weight, it's not necessarily just eating high calorie foods, but also increasing the frequency of eating such things too, which is not easy to convey to a verbally limited infant.
Naturally the one way that babymama and Babydaddy could keep food in front of babygirl long enough, was the introduction of watching TV while eating. If it were not for TV, meal times would be over in less than 5mins. Thus at an early age the idea of watching something and eating became synonymous.
Clearly Babygirl is way beyond the "failure to thrive" label(thank you PediaSure, the official weight gainer/protein shake for babies), but the habit of staring at a screen and putting food to mouth still continues. Naturally babyboy has taken to watching and eating as something normal.
America, it's embarassing as parents to admit that our children are not likely to eat as well if there is not a TV, but it ain't easy to break either, but we're working on it.
At the end of the day, Babygirl and Babyboy are healthy and thriving. Parenting is not always cookie cutter neat and proper, and sometimes we just have to do what we gotta do, and not worry what other parents might be thinking or saying.
Babygirl thriving and winning!
Sunday, August 19, 2012
How could Babydaddy not share this with everyone?
Monday, August 13, 2012
It never fails when ever someone meets the family for the first time, they always want to compare the face of the child and match it up to a parent. Babymama and Babydaddy have gotten every combination of who looks like who. We do agree that Babyboy is ours, and he is without a doubt a biological sister to Babygirl, but we agree he looks "Serbian" or Eastern Bloc European.
Then there's always that person who wants to compare your child to a fake baby, fake as in not real, or simply created in a Pixar lab. No, people don't think Babyboy looks like the toy baby from Toy Story, but rather Jack Jack from the Incredibles.
At first Babymama and Babydaddy used to think this was funny and it was a clever compliment. Finally Babydaddy decided to refresh his memory of what exactly Jack Jack looks like.
C'mon. Really, he looks like Jack Jack! -because he has a big round head? Maybe similar ears that jut out? He doesn't even rock the faux hawk often either, nor does he turn into a flaming baby when he's angry. He can be a ball of energy like all 2y/o but no babysitter has refused to come back to watch him.
So let this be a lesson to all of you parents out there, when your child is compared to a fictional child, it can't be a good thing. And if an acquaintance states that your son reminds them of a Pixar kid, it can't be a good thing.
Take a look.
These kids look great as characters, but really would you like to be the parent of child that looks like this? They look cute or funny on screen with their disproportional body parts and sizes, but in real life probably not so cute, just sayin' nothing against Pixar.
What unfavorable character has your child been compared to?
Monday, August 6, 2012
-with the goodie bags at a birthday party
-with one's excitement watching a vaginal or Cesarean delivery
-with doing so much that you've literally fallen over and sinking in (mess, illness, emotional paralysis, etc.)
-or simply enjoying the summer like Babydaddy has been doing this summer(the benefits of being your own boss, as well as working in an a field that has a seasonal slowdown).
Clearly this *dad went overboard in excitement, TMI, bodily fluids, etc. Dad's it's easy to geek out in the joys of fatherhood, but some are best not sharing with others.
*yes i realize that this is purely fiction but there's some babydaddy's or babymama's who can come pretty close to the level of full disclosure, TMI, etc. just try not to be one of them :)
Monday, June 25, 2012
Wow, did not know it's been 3 months since Babydaddy's last threw up a post. Go figure Babydaddy has been more productive with his business blog, so naturally the dad blog has gone by the way side. Well 3 months have gone by and Babyboy is now 2 years old, like he was born in 2010.
As Babydaddy reflects back on the past 760ish days, it almost seems like the amount of life events covered like 1400 days. Here's a crude snap shot of 2 years:
May 2010- BabyBoy was born almost 2 weeks past due in family tradition of emergency c-section
July 2010- Babydaddy gets hit up w/pneumonia for a the 2nd time in his life
Fall 2010- brought on some of the most difficult and stressful challenges at work
Nov 2010- we find Babymama got the FT teaching job, and we'll be moving to TN in the summer, so she cab start teaching in the fall.
Jan 2011- Babyboy started wearing a helmet to reshape his head (unsure of exact start date) Prior to meeting with specialist on head shapes and doctor who invented the helmet, Babyboy also had trips to see a urologist and dermatologist(all for precautionary reasons, and hypervigilant pediatrician)
Jan 2011- Babyboy takes a trip to CA with family, Babyboy gets to dip his toes in both the Atlantic and Pacific Oceans in less than a year, what took Babymama until adulthood to achieve
Feb-April 2011- Babydaddy spent much time and money trying to keep greenbus(our beloved green CR-V) alive
April 2011- Family forced to buy new car, as greenbus is headed for the scrap yard
May 2011- Babyboy no longer has to wear a helmet, and turns 1 years old.
May-June 2011- purging, packing, cleaning, rinse, repeat.
June 2011- we move away from a city that Babymama and Babydaddy arrived in 10 years prior as single, young kids, and left as a married couple with 2 kids. We leave our condo(1st home) vacant with no tenants moving despite valiant efforts to find someone.
July 2011- arrive in our new home after traveling and visiting w/friends and family(in MA, NY, PA, OH, and MI) for the past 2.5weeks.
Aug 2011- the hottest and driest summer in TN history= 5th ring of Dante's Inferno for us northerners. leaves were turning brown and falling by the end of the month.
Sept 2011- tenants move into our condo, babydaddy started teaching, babymama started teaching, babygirl started montessori pre-k, babyboy started to hang out with babydaddy more, babydaddy started paying rent on his own office space.
Dec 2011- finish paying off repair costs for greenbus which we hadn't owned for past 8 months.
Jan 2012- with help of County Sheriff's office we evicted our tenants
Feb 2012- our condo is listed for sale, well below the price we paid for
May 2012- Babymama participates in her 2nd graduation as a faculty member, and completes/survives her 1st year of FT teaching. Babygirl completes her 1st year of pre K. Babydaddy actually has busy days at the office, and Babyboy excited to make it to 2 years old and looking fwd to full summer with his whole family.
On a a side note:
In 2 years Babyboy has taken trips to CA, NC, FL, OH, MI, NY, RI, IL, and PA, and has lived in MA and TN. Also accompanied Babymama to 2 family funerals
Along with the many 1sts that come within the first 2 years of life(scoot crawling, standing, walking, talking, etc.), Babyboy had no trips to ER(thankfully), and has had 4 different regular nanny/babysitters/child care providers.
birth-24months in 3 month intervals
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
The stress of finding a regular sitter or nanny to watch the kids either for occasional outings or longer term, regularly scheduled work days can be stressful. There's always the balance of experience vs. cost, and of course the #1 issue is do you trust that this person will take care, or take better care of my child than I would?
While the kids may watch TV and play computer games when Babydaddy's home, the expectations is that paid help would watch, care, entertain and not be juggling their email, phone calls, etc. like most dual role parents.
I found this article interesting, of course all things about life in NYC is fascinating and expensive, but when the nanny is well compensated and getting paid more than most doctors, it really becomes an interesting read.
It also makes you wonder as a parent if resources and money was not a barrier, what is excessive and how much is too much? Obviously for some families, they have found that magical Mary Poppins like professional who will do more than just make medicines go down, and teach you how to sing songs.
In our new home, babydaddy has seen the stay at home woman that loves homeschool and juggling the household, to families that have regular hired help, and then there's people like babydaddy that calls on people associated with the university to help out on semi regularly scheduled days.
Where's the balance, what is optimal, what's best for little Jack and Jill, hopefuly mommy and daddy know best and are making good informed decisions about their children and family, no judgements from this Babydaddy- parenting and life ain't easy(and it's hardly ever black or white).