Perhaps it's Babydaddy's own lofty ambitions to raise Babygirl in an environment that is a good mix of exposing her to the big bad world, while keeping her under the security of protective arms and watchful eyes.
If there's anything that Babydaddy sees in working with adolescents or pre-teens, as well as his own reflections on childhood is the lack of frankness and appropriate conversations parents/adults have with kids re: all things related to sex, drugs and rock and roll.
In all seriousness some States don't even allow for teachers to talk about sex, which is grossly lacking in the great Bay State that Babydaddy resides in. This lack of education puts even more pressure and importance on parents, and between soccer practice, afterschool activities, and what not, what kid or parent has time for a sit down conversations on any topic that requires being open and frank? May B btwn txt msgs ppl can fit in all da important 411.
Oprah likes to use the term "va-jay jay," babymama has been known to use such terms as "lady parts," "ladyland," etc. Lately babygirl is in that normal, natural age where when she's naked her hands naturally go to body parts that are 99% of the time covered by a cloth diaper. Of course it was cute when babygirl would refered to her gluteus maximus as her "bootee," but it wasn't so cute when she would touch her labia/vagina and say "coochie." Is there a double standard that Babydaddy thinks "booty" is ok(cuz he taught her this), but not "coochie"(cuz Babymamma taught her this)?
Babydaddy firmly believes that there should not be any shame, embarrassment, with correctly naming all of our God given anatomical parts. Babydaddy can't tell you the number of times he's played the "penis game" with his clients(this has nothing to do with inappropriate touching, or anything like that, just a game to help boys get used to saying body parts as candidly as saying "elbow" or "knee" or "penis.") so why wouldn't Babydaddy's own little girl grow up learning all the real terminology for these body parts?
It's Babydaddy's belief if we as parents can use appropriate language, it will allow for a more open dialogue regarding anything related to the body, which includes sex. If a child grows up knowing that certain body parts have cute little names, won't there be some great embarrassment, or unspoken stigma in bringing up serious questions about those same body parts?
So Babydaddy thinks Babymama is on board with referring to the correct body parts with the correct terminology for those parts. What are other parents doing? What did ya'll grow up calling those "private parts." I think it's interesting that the non-medical terminology for penis in Korean is the same word for pepper, as in red, bell, jalapeno pepper, how about in your own native tongue, any funny names?
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
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this post is so funny!!!! basically, because i have a funny answer to your last question. but the whole post i was wondering where you were going with this. so Chinese is not my native tongue, but nonetheless i have a good one-slang for penis in Chinese is 'little brother.' i laughed for days about that one.
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